Archive for October, 2009

Adapting to Changes in Swinging 0

October 20th, 2009

Swinging is a very dynamic lifestyle. Things are changing and they are changing fast; in order to keep up you need to be able to adapt to these changes. What you and your spouse are comfortable now may not provide the same comfort later. Even variations are part of swinging and you need to be able to adjust yourself to these variations as well.

Adapting to changes in swinging is not a rocket science. You have an open mind to begin with, and all you need to do is be sensitive to changes around you and adjust. If you see your spouse acting differently towards the regular swinging activities, try to approach them and talk openly about how each of you feels. By being sensitive you are allowing yourself to capture the changes faster, thus enabling you to adapt to it just as fast.

There are also times when you need to stop swinging, either for a while or permanently. By training yourself to be sensitive, you will be able to see these times early and act accordingly. Your spouse, or even yourself, may no longer feel comfortable with swinging; by spotting the trouble early you can get out of the lifestyle while both of you are still happy and have great memories.

Adapting to changes in swinging is definitely a skill that can be developed. Just be more sensitive to your spouse and your surroundings, and you will be able to spot changes and adapt to it faster in no time.

Posted by admin in Swinging

Coming Out: Being Open about Swinging 0

October 5th, 2009

Despite the fact that swinging has been growing popular the past couple of years, not all swinging couples feel comfortable coming out to the open. Being open about swinging do have consequences, especially with cons still affecting the general populations, but it is not without benefits.

The first question you need to ask yourself is whether your family needs to know. I’m sure that families can, and will, accept you for who you are and being able to talk openly about swinging to your family may be a relief indeed, but you need to also consider side effects that comes with being open about your involvements in swinging or sharing your experiences. Make sure they can really accept the idea of swinging even when they don’t actually get involved in it. The same approach can also be used when you plan on telling your friends; you wouldn’t want to ruin your friendship just because they think you are considering them to be potential swinging partners, right?

One of the oldest tricks in the book when it comes to assessing people’s thoughts about swinging is to leave materials related to swinging — journals, magazines with swinging articles in it, etc. — around and see how they react to it. If they are aggressively against the concept, it would be best to avoid telling them just yet. If they seem OK with the idea and can accept it as another existing lifestyle in the community, then you may carefully move forward and start being open about swinging.

Posted by admin in Partners