Although very small and often neglected, having your own get-out words is very important when it comes to swinging. Swinging involves recreational sex with different playmates. Although you have done all you can to make sure both you and your spouse are comfortable with the playmate, there are some unavoidable situations that would make you or your spouse uncomfortable. That is why you need to always have an exit plan, and of course a get-out word to tell your spouse that you are not enjoying the experience without hurting playmates’ feelings.
Get-out words are also very important if your swinging experiences involve bondage, role playing, or S&M. You and your spouse need to be able to communicate when you’ve had enough or if the act is hurting you too much to a point where it is no longer pleasant and the most effective way to communicate in these situations is to have a get-out word.
Agree upon a get-out signal and create a plan to exit the situation. Consider possible options and situations for the plan and make sure both of you understand it. Keep it simple though; you need to be able to execute the plan quickly. With a proper get-out word, you will be able to signal your partner whenever you are feeling uncomfortable. You can keep the experience enjoyable and leave the bad parts behind. It is obvious that having a get-out word — and formulating an exit plan — is very important, and you should have one set when you are swinging.